Originally Posted by Tallulah
You've answered your own question. Hothousers don't try and find balance, they don't second guess themselves, and they would certainly never ever consider the ZPD. Their mantra is more is better, always. If your child can do this, then they need more, no matter what.

Yes, it boils down to second guessing yourself. The closest a hothouser gets to second guessing themselves is worrying that they're not pushing their child hard enough.

I disagree. It's certainly possible to push your child in harmful ways while having some awareness that it's harmful. Whether the parent is aware of the harm they're causing or not is immaterial.