I know we're not hothousing now, because the one extracurricular DD10 is spending the most time on is the one we're pretty sure she'll never become famous for. Also, her coaches are pushing her, and we're gently asking them to chill out a bit.

But yeah, we've been down a road with DD where you could look ahead of her path and see something that looks a lot like greatness in the far distance, and no obstacles in between that are insurmountable by her.

Definitely make sure your kids are getting unscheduled, unstructured time every day, though. The lack is absolutely toxic to children. If they're not free-playing, that's an indication of hothousing.