What to do ? I have an 8 years old , who's very smart and very bright , suspected to be gifted back in 1st grade , and now in 2nd grade the school wants us to nominate him in gifted testing . He's been a straight A's student , very responsible with his school work and home work . He does chores on his own ( helping us doing laundry , loading , unloading dishwasher ) . Never had to tell him do your homework , when he has homework , he gets to it right away ( even in the car line waiting for me ) , reads tons of books , fiction , non fictions , science books . Back in kindergarten his reading level was in 3rd , back in 1st his reading is in 5th . Been changing school for 3 times due to relocating .

The school has the same complain about our son , during kindergarten and 1st grade was told , he can't sit still , talks too much , distracting his friends ( by sharing knowledge about the related subject but he was supposed to be quiet , since he's talking out of his turn )

Now , the past couple months in this school has been a nightmare . He sees himself different and that he finds the needs to impress his friends by throwing silly stupid jokes . Sometimes it's not even funny because he's being sarcastic and his friend didn't get it . For example , he was in the bathroom , his friend asked him what he was doing .. he said " i am shopping .. duh " His friend gave him a blank look .. and our son replied " i was just being sarcastic "
Even more blank look from his friend .

He loves jokes , he loves talking , but all of these things get him in trouble at school . So much so that he was excluded in the school rodeo day program . He is at the point where he doesn't care because of the constant clip moving from his teacher . Although the teacher told me she has no problem with him completing assignments , most of the time he'll be the first to finish , and when he's finished he's bored .. nothing to do . He is the type of kid who always needs to be given something to keep him busy and out of trouble . When he's done he's allowed to read or write , but even his writing is so creative that he gets in trouble because of this too !! Or he would ends up assembling something and creating something from his pens , pencils , erasers , pencil box .. etc . As a result too .. it distracts other students because they wanted to see what he was doing .

Lately he argues so much with his teacher , esp. when he thinks it's not his fault , or being accused for something he didn't do . He always argues , very opinionated . Sometimes i am afraid whatever that comes out from his mouth would get him in big trouble .

The school wants us to nominate him for a gifted test . But at the same time , with the treatment they gave him at school ( basically clip changed every single day for the past 3 months ) , and he's seeing himself as a trouble maker ( yet he's confident that he's awesome and very smart , i got this exact words from his own writing in his journal ) , i really don't think it's a good thing . Principal told me that from what she sees , he's very lagging in his social skills , but she also saw him having a deep conversation with a 4th grader when they both were in the office . But when our son back to the class with is peers , he wanted to be the class clown .

Is this quite normal ?? It gets to the point where it doesn't really bother him anymore that he gets detentions , he gets referrals , he losses recess time .. just because he wanted to impress his friends .

A little background for his academic stuff .. he's a straight A's student , he found out the concept of multiplication on his own when he's just started 1st grade . Right now , he knows how to multiply 3 digits number and he knows division . He adds and subtracts 3-4 digits numbers . He's very creative , he loves building stuff . He is an out of the box thinker , when he was 6 , thanksgiving assignment , what are you thankful for ? He drew and wrote he's thankful for planet earth because without the earth , we human won't survive .
He loves reading books , science , fictions , non fictions , he loves reading his bible . Probably his knowledge about bible story is better than mine by now . He asked me this question not too long ago

" so i have a question after reading my bible last night .. why did God create people who's bad such as the philistines , or pharaoh . God created them knowing that they will turn out to be bad people since He knows everything . So why did he create them ? "

This kind of questions are often came out of nowhere . And then he has problem stopping it .. for example , when we're talking about how strong we can be while watching american ninja warriors . And we saw a woman doing it .. we said she's strong .. and then he rattled about Samson , one of the strong person in the bible . He would talk about something related to the subject but sometimes he doesn't know if it's his turn yet or when to stop it .

I even took him to a pyschologist to have him evaluated . No mood disorders , no ADHD , the specialist said , she finds him very mature almost like 11 years old just from the conversation they had . And that she thinks he would benefit from IQ test and gifted program . As far as the behavior , arguing with teachers ( not beind respectful ) she suggested us to a behavior therapist .

Now the school wants to have their own behavior therapist to monitor him , the therapist that they're using , usually works with autistic children .

I am just at loss at the behavior problem right now . To the point where he came home yesterday with report card , all A's but we ended up talking about the incident at school .The incident that made the principal called me was that he was reading Mad Scientist book from the library and there was one page where a dog had a swimsuit on , bikini , and he would call this bras and panties and he had a good laugh about it and showed it to his friends when he's not supposed to . The principal just said our son was looking at inappropriate picture and said inappropriate things such as bras and panties . I was horrified .. because i thought where did he get all this stuff from ? Well turned out it was from library kids book !!

How do we handle this ?? It seems so exhausted a lot of times with all the things school come up with , but yet he's very smart . But right now he gets tired of the school too and doesn't care anymore . What to do ?