We have decided to leave, it's obvious that this isn't the right place for her, but I also have to make sure that it's because of giftedness (with or without another factor) and not because she really has something serious going on. We are not running AWAY from this school, but looking for an option to run TO.
I hear you. It's awful to be in a bad-fit place. And I think you are right to consider what else may be going on besides just giftedness, or even giftedness plus ADHD.
BTW-the "bad" or undesirable behaviors at school are things like refusing to do work, reading under the desk, monopolizing discussion periods.
Could be boredom; could be ADHD; my DS9 (gifted/Asperger's) presents like this in school, too. I hope your outside evaluator is looking broadly for things that could make completing and turning in work difficult, not giftedness alone. If there's something there to catch, you'll want to find it.
DeeDee
