We are envied by the TigerParents, because our child has clearly "responded well" to the KoolAid being poured at OUR house... and they speculate endlessly on our special water supply, reasons why maybe we're doing it all for her and it's not 'real' etc. etc. The alternative is too painful to face, for that group.
The GroovyParents assume the same thing, but interpret it differently-- as abusive parenting. Until they get to know us, that is, and realize that we aren't doing those things to our child, but are responding to HER evident needs... at which point these parents conclude that our child is probably a space-alien of some sort, but that hey, it's cool as long as it isn't contagious. LOL.
Standard human response of demanding that reality conform to their model of reality.
Everybody has lacuna.
This is why I like to fill my nulls with *something*. That way, I know that the null exists and that I've arbitrarily filled it so that it doesn't bother me. I'm always looking for evidence that relates to the original null, so I just compare it with what I've filled it with already. If the evidence conflicts, I fill the null with something else.
And I'm also aware that there are unknown unknowns that arise from my own limitations.
