No other kids - just DD to worry about which is why #1 is even an option. Director runs #2 with an iron fist. She is the sole arbiter of just about everything there. Anyone attending or working at #2 has to be willing to just say "Yes Ma'am" and let her call the shots. All of the shots. I could do that IF I was sure they were meeting DD's needs. I don't know how to tell in advance if it could work though...

Keeping her in the current extra-curriculars is a big part of why #1 would be so hard. She has friends and feels supported. I don't think its an option to try to find replacements near #3 instead. She would be on the school bus which is why they would be limited to 1 route home regardless of how bad traffic was on any given day.