I'm very sorry you're having this trouble. Unfortunately I don't have any advice either, except that it does sound like you need a lawyer. I don't understand legally how they can put you in this position (let alone ethically). If you have records of what you've said to them (sorry I can't remember what you've said about that) of course hang onto them/ back them up. Also just a side thought--if it does turn out this is illegal I wonder if some group like the ACLU might be willing to help. I wouldn't have thought of them even a few years ago and don't know if they deal with disability/educational stuff but they have seemed to branch out in recent years and they seem to be good advocates when they do get involved. Best of luck.