I ditto what Grinity said and it made me think of a Maya Angelou quote. I posted the long version on the quote thread but the short version is 'well, if I'd known better I'd have done better.' Glad to hear your report on NH. I'm in the library queue for Transforming the difficult child : the nurtured heart approach : shifting the intense child to new patterns of success and strengthening all children on the inside / Howard Glasser and Jennifer Easley.