We used the Explosive Child techniques along with advice from our psychologist, and it was perfect for our daughter. There has been a 180 degree difference with this approach.

With that being said, you need to determine what works best with your child. There is no wrong or right approach.

I remember back during the terrible-twos going through the entire "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" system and thinking it was a bunch of baloney. At that time, I couldn't imagine how any parent had success with that. It was then that I realized my daughter was her own person and that approach just did NOT work.

What works for one kid (who may even have the same "profile" as your child), may not work for yours.

Do what feels right to you. Also, do what is successful based on your measures of success, not anyone else's.