hey everyone
just got back from my appt. and the therapist was wonderful- i laughed and cried.. I feel a lot of hope. I still am not sure about Nurtured Heart vs. Explosive child, but just having a therapist who listened and GOT IT.. was amazing. He agrees that the tough part will be to find ways to parent that will work for both my children, who have hugely different needs.... So I picked up a copy of the Ross Green book today and am starting to dig in...

and kcab, i agree with oyou that there is just somethign different and purely "humane" the way Glassman presents his approach- i would love to find a therapist around my area that uses it, as i don't think i can do it without someone to go to for help.

but the Explosive Chlld does seem more researched and rich in detail, and probably more in line with what my DS7 needs.

but in any case, a very good morning, and thank you to all- i felt so great seeing all teh responses as soon as i got back home today smile huge thanks.