hi belle,
diito my DD5 seemed to get upset too at compliments and would start acting up immediately after. extremely frustrating. The Nurtured Heart Approach has taught me to comment on what actually IS, as opposed to how good I think something is..

For example, i used to say "great job writing that letter R" and she'd say "no its not, i started at the bottom instead of the top."..
Now I've learned to say somethign like "I noticed you wrote a letter R".. (no judgment, indisputable FACT).

its a subtle difference but so far has worked really well with her. i would have never thought of it.
irene