As far as feeling uncomfortable with his giftedness: He goes to an accelerated school, so all the kids are gifted-- it's more that he feels stupid and inadequate by comparison, because he is not at all "good" at what they're doing all day.

But his IQ and WIAT scores tell a different story.

Maybe it would be better if I didn't know those scores...

I guess it's true that he needs to buy into what he's doing, but he will only buy into what he's already interested in... so it's a tough nut to crack.