So much of what your are saying BronxMom, fits the behaviors of my 10 year old. I've been making a concerted effort to not raise my voice or argue with him at all. Sadly, I'm not all that successful...but I keep trying. Homework is less of a battle than it was 3 weeks ago, but still a tremendous stress on all of us. DS is anxious, defiant, resentful, and has melt downs at the drop of a hat AT HOME. In school, other than his lasck of attention to detail, disorganization and refusal to complete written assignments, he is seen as a cheerful, well adjusted student. Home schooling is not an option right now for us, but DS hates the idea of it anyway. I really hope that if you go that direction that it works well for you. It seems to work well for alot of the families on this board smile

MinnieMarx,
Thank you for the quotes. I need to get that book and read it since I'm not at all sure how to get DS to that emotionally secure place. But it does describe DS very well.