I do realize that they can't say no to the 504 but I just don't know if it will help enough to warrant my continuing to harrass them. If my working with her can keep her grades @ a reasonably high enough place, I think that's just where we're going to leave it for the rest of the year and not worry about the fact that she isn't getting any accommodations at school.
My two cents on this: You won't know if it works until the accommodations are in place, of course; but that doesn't necessarily mean it's not worth a try.
This sounds counterintuitive, but sometimes it makes sense to set up a plan in the place you're desperate to get out of, rather than waiting until you settle into the new one.
Reason 1: the teachers in the old place have seen the deficits already; it won't take them months to notice what's going on and think about making a plan
Reason 2: even in the best case scenario, setting up a plan can take months; waiting until you get there may cost her accommodations for most of that first year in the new place. Standards will be higher in a higher grade; if she needs the accommodations now, she may need them more later.
Reason 3: right now you are remediating like crazy at home; this work is invisible to the school staff. They are likely to believe the problem has miraculously gone away. This will make it harder to get the accommodations later.
Best,
DeeDee
