I don't know your situation beyond what you have described so I am overstepping a little.
That's okay; it doesn't feel intrusive. She is not only possibly HG, but also probably 2e. She has anxiety issues and likely ADD. She isn't doing well academically in the GT programming. She's not failing out, but her grades are wildly erratic and she is feeling stupid b/c she isn't doing as well as the majority of the other kids in the classes. She wants to drop out of the GT program b/c she feels stupid. Granted, she also felt stupid in the non-GT class b/c she was grouped with many kids who, in her mind, aren't very bright.
Our GT programs really are high achiever programs. They
really don't serve the needs of divergent thinkers. Someone suggested to me on my other thread about ADD on the 2e forum that a school w/ no GT program might be a better idea.
I could keep my p/t job and homeschool, but it would entail dd being home alone about 25 hrs/week and she is a huge extravert who is very unhappy home alone. My dh is a commercial truck driver so he's not home much and he has very little patience anyway. He yells at her whenever he tries to help her with stuff and transfers his own self image issues on to her.
My hours are really strange. I'm an educator at a hospital with rotating hours that include nights, weekends, and different days each week. I often don't know when I'm needed in until a day or so beforehand. For instance, someone from our NICU called me at 8:30 this morning (Sat.) wanting me to come in at 10 a.m. to teach a class. That one, fortunately, didn't have to happen but that type of thing isn't uncommon. It really isn't the type of job that has been easy to juggle even with what I am doing now and would be hard to juggle with trading kids with someone else for instance (which I've explored).
I have been trying the home based business idea (as you can see via my siggie

). I've been doing a very little bit of tutoring and tested one homeschooled kid on the SAT10 last year. I've made a tiny bit from affiliate programs and advertising on my website, but that doesn't even cover the monthly cost of running the site. I'm writing articles online which pays very, very little. I've mostly written the manuscript for a study strategy book for gifted kids, although I haven't been able to find a publisher. I enjoy all of this, but it really is something like an extra $50/month as best at the moment. I may just suck at business/advertising

. I am trying, though!
I'm just confused and I feel like I am failing dd10. Dd12, in hindsight, has been a lot easier and she's the one who is really obviously HG. She just needed acceleration.