Originally Posted by La Texican
Originally Posted by Syler
I think my problem is mainly that I have an insatiable need for stimulating conversation and I often say things that while correct, might make others feel stupid. they might actually be "the right answer", that somehow isn't the same as saying the right thing.
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I re-worded your post because I'll bet that's more accurate. �I used to describe my "other-ness" by saying that as a child I learned how to find the truth, but I was never taught the deception. �Obviously, some people loved me to death for that (some couldn't be around me because higher thoughts are contagious). �But I couldn't integrate into a certain social something I saw, even among my friends who loved me dearly and begged me never to change for no-one. �
Sorry for the delay, I had the post half-written when the hubby walked in the door with food in his hand <3.
as I was saying, don't look for ways to come across as dumbed-down. �Think of learning a new skill where you learn how to say the right thing, not the right answer. �

I understand what you are saying. The problem with always trying to say the right thing is that it isn't genuine and that meaningful relationships are seldom built from dishonesty.

Now of course I try to be mindful of people's feelings. I'm not totally socially inept. I just find that over time, it always creeps through. Perhaps it isn't even what I say but how I say it. I have been ridiculed for using words people didn't understand and even for simply being too articulate. Then there is the boredom I experience around most people and pain I experience listening to them. And of course there are those dreaded ideas of mine that just seem weird to most people. Maybe I should just stop expecting people to get it.

Last edited by Mark Dlugosz; 08/18/10 09:40 AM.