DH is short for "dear husband."
You might find that people who are quirky often tolerate others' quirks pretty well. You might also find regional differences. We recently moved from a very conservative area in which I felt people were judging me for what I wore to the grocery store to a city where people couldn't care less, and it is very refreshing. DH & I also both found refuge in subcultures and in the arts.
I'll also say that DH has a lot of insecurity leftover from being called "stupid" (etc.) and he sometimes overcompensates by trying extra hard to seem smart. Since he is obviously very smart, when he tries to act smart he comes off as arrogant. He's just the opposite, but to someone who is genuinely less intelligent, I'm sure it seems very obnoxious.
If you are having problems finding a woman who wants to be with you, perhaps you should reconsider the type of woman you want to be with. A woman who isn't interested because you don't have an advanced degree or loads of cash simply may not be the one for you. I can assure you that there are plenty of attractive, intelligent, caring women in the world who appreciate intelligence, wit, and even quirkiness. Personally, I fell for DH in his first year of college, and tried for years to talk him out of going to medical school.
