bk1,

What a situation! I can imagine how stressful this must be.

This probably sounds too simplistic, and I'm sure you've considered it, but could you call G&T Middle and explain your situation? That you'd have to turn down Cozy's Aspie program before learning if your son would be accepted? They might be able to indicate whether you should hold out for their acceptance letter? Especially if they reacted as favorably as you thought they did...

Also, is there a down-side to accepting Cozy's Aspie program and then changing your mind based on what you hear from G&T Middle? Does your acceptance lock you in?