Hi Nan:
Thanks for this perspective and reassurance.
I guess I have to realize that EITHER middle school choice will be an improvement over his current situation.
Right now, he is just in a regular elementary school with no AS-specific help and practically no challenge. The Cozy Middle school would be about the same level of challenge, with faster math AND support to address his Asperger's challenges. G&T Middle would provide more rigorous academics, and we could try to work in AS help with the IEP.
Now my dh has just arrived home. When I told him about maybe picking G&T, he said, "but will he be lonely and not have any friends there?" Part of the appeal of Cozy Middle is that it would have the built-in friends -- a teacher support and cadre of five AS kids in his class and 10-15 AS kids in the grade.
Now that I've started talking to him about the merits of that, now he's leaning back to G&T Middle!
Sigh...
