MumofThree: I can relate to the problems with one parent working really hard at something, and the other parent not being as intentional. Also the problem of watching DS try to cope with a babysitter/group childcare after a spate of me "doing a good job." I wind up genuinely wondering if I'm ruining his life by getting him used to a way of being that works for him... which is to say, I get taken by the "you're spoiling him" daemons.

It's s confusing, because I know he has to learn to cope with other situations, but it really doesn't seem like doing the parent thing too well should be a problem!

ug.

DS1: Hon, you already finished your homework
DS2: Quit it with the protesting already!