Wow, Lori, what a story... puts my stress in perspective. Thanks for sharing and I'm glad things are going better for your family.

Just out of curiosity, did your son ever take up writing? This is our big issue--

I definitely think the "backing off"-- facilitator-- model is the one that will work for us. Why take him out of school and then replicate the experience at home?

Thanks again to everyone, this has really been very useful.