Thanks again to everyone, this is great!

And Belle, thanks for the perspective... we actually had a difficult experience today, I kept him home and we had an argument (including tears from both of us) when he wouldn't do what I wanted to do when I wanted him to do it. I had this instinct that I needed to be in control of the situation (I'm still not sure I wasn't right), so obviously this led to a huge power struggle.

Daily power struggle is not what I have in mind.

His illness may be making him more defiant than usual... it's certainly making him more anxious.

Hoping we will find our path...