Sorry--I didn't mean to come off condescending and I probably did. I have a kneejerk tendency to protect as well, and I'm a reflexive snob, so I have to remind myself to be careful. I was interested in the research on protection vs not. I don't think it's necessarily self evident.

For instance, YouTube is a hard one for me. I agree that it's important social currency these days, but I kind of hate it because it's so easy to end up somewhere sketchy. At the same time, I so don't want to sit there and co-view...yawn. I'm less bothered for DD, who is showing herself to be smart about things that are creepy, but DS is still very young.