Dude- What you are describing is exactly what I dealing with and struggling to manage my ds and about to lose my mind with his teacher. My ds gets in some trouble at school, but wants to be good (ex. Got in trouble yesterday because he didn't want to do "butterfly arms" during a song. Really? I wouldn't want to do that either.) I also notice that his behavior at home gets worse as the week progresses and much better on the weekends. He was my sweet, amazing boy during holiday break. His teacher doesn't believe that he doesn't like school, because she says he's engaged and the first to help. He's just a pleaser. I have taken your advice and have told him that I am working with his teacher to make it better. I very exhausted and frustrated, but still trying.