Originally Posted by master of none
Please help me think rationally!

IMO, you are thinking rationally. You have specific reasons for wanting a conference with certain teachers and you've made a request. This seems completely reasonable to me.

Besides, using an arbitrary cutoff point to deny access to conferences seems unreasonable to me (and is also a way to ignore good students while focusing on less good students). Surely, A and B students are not perfect, and surely, their parents have a reasonable expectation to discuss these points with the teachers.