I thought I would update what progress my son has made. He is nearly 30 and he is a successful system developer. It was officially determined to be on the spectrum and Lamictal, last I heard, seemed to be the best meds.
He is a different person while on Lamictal. He is less agitated and he is able to pick up social cues much easier and able to respond to it appropriately.
As an adult, he is happy and able to find colleagues he feels comfortable being around. If it wasn't for this forum, I would have been lost about receiving help with the struggles he faced in his school career.