I too am going through all of this with my 3rd grader. don't let them label him ED. It is a stigma that will affect his future perseption by teachers. Get the book you mentioned some how or way. I also contacted Dr. Amend who is based in Lexington, Ky. He is on the web as well. We made phone contact which is great. I am also using the behavor clinic through my local children's hospital. This is how we came up with the tourettes.

The counselor described my little guy as made up of many different flavors. He really isn't one set thing but little bits of all the initials that are thrown at kids.

It is a lot of work and you will cry but you are your childs advocate.
My Meeting is next week also so we will see how it goes.