I think you should ask the school to do not just a psych eval but a neuropsych eval if you think he could be on the spectrum. Also, if there's any way you can afford an outside eval, I would do that.

In additon, you do not have to allow them to lable him anything you don't like. You have to sign off on whatever they come up with, so if you don't like it, don't sign it. I'd try to stay away from an ED (emotionally disturbed) label. Anxiety, depression, and ADHD would all get an OHI (other health impairment) label. You can negotiate at the meeting.

If he has an IEP, you can have social goals added.

Go to wrightslaw.com and read up on the process. There are a lot of resources there.

My ds is also being evaluated for special ed. He has dysgraphia and ADHD.