Second the wine glass, in the evening, preferably with your spouse I front of a good TV drama. Escapism.

If this were my kid, which I expect it may be in a few years time because they are so very alike, I'd say his anxiety is through the roof. I'd see a psychiatrist to try and get a diagnosis that will get her out from getting 0s for not handing in stuff - generalized anxiety disorder, ADHD, anything. And then I'd consider medication. Not Ritalin, but rather Prozac or Zoloft. I'd think she is old enough to need it.