Originally Posted by bluemagic
Yes. We have certainly heard the "unmotivated", "lazy" line and until we started to get to the bottom of things I'll admit I felt that way myself. Where did our clearly very bright kid, who taught himself to read at 3 and could do rings around the other kids in K go? Particularly when DS16 had trouble writing essays. Or took longer to complete regular assignments.
I heard "he can focus when it's something he wants to do" this year (and variations on the theme). The "he doesn't care" bit is the one that's lodged itself under my skin.