if it's not compulsory and it's not a life changing event I'd definitely take my child's feelings and thoughts into consideration. That includes my 7 year old, my 5 year old and even my 3 year old. In fact, even with life changing events I'd be likely to ask them and consider that into the mix too.

Flip if I had left Aiden at the K level in the gifted school he was at before we pulled him out I'm sure by now my marriage would be over, Aiden and I would both be on medication and he on suicide watch. He was 5 and my only regret about listening to him was that I didn't listen sooner - like an entire year sooner! We could have skipped so much anguish, angst and emotional and psychological turmoil. All just by asking what he wanted. *sigh*

We homeschool/unschool now and my older two boys get to choose their own goals, and set their own work schedules. They suggest/veto project and outing suggestions and they definitely chose their own sports and activity options.

Mom to 3 gorgeous boys: Aiden (8), Nathan (7) and Dylan (4)