I know this is how I should do it but not being raised in the WASP suburban way this is very hard for me... It's second nature to my mother in law, for example, (I really admire she's really got some talent in this manner) but not to me... I'm an inner city, lower socio-economic girl - I do think we tend on the whole to be more direct and confrontational.
Have you seen the work of Ruby K. Payne (
http://www.ahaprocess.com/)? Of special interest may be her book,
Crossing the Tracks for Love. Lots of interesting SES discussion, it's like learning a new language and culture.
The info I posted upthread was for parent information only... what a strategy of a teacher/school may be. It is not intended as a guide to your conversation with the teacher/school. HK's post is to guide the conversation. Different info for different purposes and uses.
