... it is often successful/wise to take a non-confrontational approach that permits them ... to come to the correct conclusions THEMSELVES. In colloquial terminology this could be termed the "two hands and a flashlight" model of communication.
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I think that I may be confused about this. Can you help me?
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What is the learning objective for this activity? I'm not sure that I understand that, and I'd like to be able to support it from our end, as well.
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Oh-- that's lovely! What a great thing!
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Hmm-- yes, I can see how that is a great goal! Uh oh, though-- what if my child isn't finding {plan} engaging enough to be compliant?? I agree that this is a big problem in a classroom. I'm not sure that I'm understanding why my child is being punished-- how will that accomplish {objective} here?
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What do you suggest we can try so that this activity isn't feeling like punishment?
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If teacher comes up empty, you can ask "Can we try -----?" questions to feed solutions in.
Great guide for conversation with a teacher/school.
