Thanks, Indigo. There is a lot of good information in your post and eloquently put... I this I will use it when we need to discuss this again in the future. I especially like this:

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Achievement can be managed downwards or squelched, damaging the child by giving no-win choices. One example might be: learn by reading at your appropriate level and be considered as misbehaving -or- read below your level and be considered compliant. In this scenario, the child is forced to either be compliant by not learning... or be considered defiant and learn. This may encourage underachievement. A winning scenario would be pairing compliance with learning, in which the child is considered as engaging in appropriate & desired behavior by reading at their appropriate or challenge level.

Last edited by Irena; 10/03/13 09:29 AM.