Extra thoughts:

1. your daughter will not have to deal with the metaphorical "cannibalism" present in "Lord of the Flies" if she can realize that "fitting in" pales in comparison to other things in life--i.e. self-fulfillment, research projects, meeting a significant other who understands you, etc.

2. She will thank you one day, and she will come back to her ordinary self in time. It's part of the identity vs. role confusion stage.