Originally Posted by Portia
Hmmm - if she won't see someone, is she open to reading a book/workbook herself? Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend come to mind.

This book has a Christian focus, something our OP may want to be aware of.

Haven't read it myself, but I have listened to their radio program a number of times and found them to give generally very sensible concrete advice on setting boundaries in relationships.