HowlerKarma,

just about everything your daughter is experiencing I endured as well--along with the unimaginably humiliating "Lord of the Flies" rejection scene. It still hurts like hell, but one day your daughter will understand that she is doing nothing wrong. Her nature as a PG individual WILL make her stand out and make it harder to fit in with the rest of the crowds in HS. I did the experimenting as well due to depression, along with excessive school-skipping. It is good that you are facing and addressing this problem with you DD now though.

I PROMISE you things will get better.