She is a lovely girl-- not particularly behind in development, so she looks like a pretty girl somewhere between age 13 and 17. I don't
think that she's so appealing/attractive that she is seen as a threat to her friends' romantic interests...
though...
hm. She IS blonde and blue-eyed, she is leggy and slim, she is petite but curvy, and appealing socially. She also does have that... something... that draws people to her.
Might have to think on that one. Hadn't fully considered it, but it's a possibility. This would explain a few other things that I didn't post.
(Please don't quote the following)
She tends to "hide" in her attire, readily choosing oversized, gender-neutral clothing, covering up a lot of skin (which is fine, but not when it seems burka-like in intent, YK?), but at the same time, she still has this other streak of wanting to be "pretty" and look attractive and even a little bit sexy (but not more than age-appropriate, IMO). Both things seem to have intensified since being burned by the mentally unstable peer and an age-mate that STILL stalks her occasionally nearly a year after she broke things off with him...
She has now decided that one of her friends is her "girlfriend." Which I think is a beard (for both girls, my DD13-14, and the friend, also 14-15), and so does my DH. There's absolutely
nothing physical between the two of them, and BOTH of them are hiding from the interest of adolescent boys, in my opinion. Until January, she definitely seemed to be following a heterosexual developmental curve. She has also NOT been eager to spend time with this young woman in person, being completely content to spend hours on Skype with her (very different from the boys she has been involved with).
We've been fairly matter of fact about this revelation/announcement, and basically accepted it at face value and added that the rules aren't different in a same-sex romantic relationship. I have cautioned that she should not lock herself into a sexual orientation/gender-identity before she's ready in any case, and that there is a lot out there which is part of a spectrum of human existence, but reassured her that wherever she falls on it is fine, and that we love her unconditionally.
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Fear of the future.... hm.
DEFINITELY a possibility in my mind. To the point that I actually wondered if she wasn't deliberately self-sabotaging the SAT in an effort to do "bad enough" that we'd delay college or something. Possible. Yes.
At the same time, like most adolescents, she regularly makes hash of her dad and I because we don't treat her the way she wishes. (How would that be? Do the words "As you wish" mean anything?
LOL. In other words, she's a pretty typical 12-16yo girl in terms of her interactions with us. She is just WAY brighter than most of them. ) She wants autonomy... but... with...
servants. 
