ABQMom-
I really didn't mean to be hurtful when saying what I did. Personally, my two boys get compared with the cousins who are really quite the opposite of them; and my in- laws don't understand our struggles or why they have soooo much energy (even if its excessive talking). It is a very frustrating situation.

I certainly didn't mean to seem that the only good kids are our very intense ones. I apologize. Also, I try to tell myself, that though exhausting, I enjoy them and all they are.