Originally Posted by ABQMom
While I want him to learn skills that will help him get along with others, I also don't want to keep "fixing" him until he's pretty sure he's defective the way he is.

Yep. I hear you.

We *try* to frame these things in an explanatory or informative way, as in "oh, you probably didn't know this yet, but when you do X other people think Y. If you do Z instead they'll be happier because they think Q." Not critical, just giving valuable information for him to put into the hopper.

But it's definitely a real challenge.

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