I'm still trying to figure it out. �
What she said.
And what works for one child won't necessarily work for the sibling. DD9 is intensely sensitive and empathetic. I only have to speak to her once and she is over-the-top contrite. In fact, I have to be careful about what I bring up and decide first if it is worth her losing sleep over (she will worry about hurting someone's feelings to the point that she is unable to sleep and wracked with guilt).
Her three year old brother is a whole different story. He does not care in the slightest if he upsets anyone. The world revolves around him. There is no indication of empathy. For example, he bit a child at his care giver's house today. BIT HER! Never in his life has he ever hurt another child. But, he could not have cared less. The only way his sitter got any response from him was to take the toy that they were fighting over away... which made him cry. Even talking to him tonight, he simply does not care that he hurt the child. I find this mind-bogglingly frustrating! ARG!!
