BTW, DD is also in a FT gifted/acclerated program. It has been our experience (she was in one for elementray as well) that these programs routinely assume that kids are high in EF as well as IQ. Why would one assume this??
Ignorance? My two youngest had a teacher with this attitude. In a conference one day, she told me bluntly that DD should have the executive function of a child two years older than she was if she was in a class with kids who were up to two years older.
I tried to explain that EF doesn't develop at the same time as cognitive ability in many children, and after I was done with what I was saying, she answered, "I still don't believe it. She should just be able to it."
I suspect that some teachers have an idea about what "giftedness" looks like, and the picture is of a compliant child who always hands homework in on time, always gets As, and never causes trouble or inconvenience. This woman certainly had that idea.
Most of my kids' teachers haven't had this attitude, but in the ones who did, it was entrenched.
ETA: can your daughter put a sticky Post-it on whatever she has at her desk and not the assignment down on that?
