Originally Posted by Mk13
1. Do we want to keep an IEP when he doesn't have too many problems right now? For practical reasons, I would probably want to keep it just in case he does have issues once he is in K so we don't have to fight for a new IEP and also I want to keep an eye on his pragmatic speech as that is the only occasional squeaky wheel at the moment. (other than constantly talking and always wanting to answer and just wanting all the attention because he just loves school :))

Keep it! As a child on the autism spectrum grows, issues often become apparent that weren't apparent before. There is a big leap into K and again into 1st about expected classroom behavior and skill in following instructions and getting along with others; there are likely to be bumps or places where you find a skill is missing. The IEP lets you address those as they arise.

Originally Posted by Mk13
So, my thinking is, having a DETAILED allergy management plan of some sort in his IEP to make sure nobody takes any short cuts and because it does affect his education.

Totally. The teacher needs training and access to the Epi-Pen, as do any others who look after him throughout the day. In our school most teachers are trained.

Originally Posted by Mk13
I am not even attempting to address giftedness with the school because the gifted pull out program doesn't start until 3rd grade and when I tried to show the school where he's at academically while in preschool, they didn't get it (he's 2-3 years ahead in math and while he's not reading yet, he's almost there. I'm pretty sure he will be reading when he goes to K in the fall). So, basically he goes to school to have fun and learns at home.

There will be other kids in K who are also reading; the math is more unusual. I'd say your chances of getting anyone to notice before or during K are slim; as long as he's happy, work on the social skills and know that there will be time to make adjustments.

Originally Posted by Mk13
There is a chance the school will recommend holding him back due to his August birthday being pretty much the youngest one in his class in K combined with some of the PDD issues but there is absolutely NO way we would hold him back. He's very much ready to fun forward.

Here it would actually be a violation of procedure for the school to suggest holding a kid back. They are required to accept all kids who are of the right age.

Originally Posted by Mk13
Also, are all these points something I should send to the Special Ed director so she is ready to incorporate it in the IEP as I'm sure she will come to the meeting with basically a copy of his old IEP with minor changes ready for me to sign it?

Definitely work out the allergy stuff in advance. It may also be worth envisioning what you want in terms of social and behavioral and communication goals.

DeeDee