One thing I'm not sure how to handle ... Nick's current pre-school teacher will be in the meeting so I am not sure how to address the issues we've had while he's been in the class without causing trouble for her (she is nice and trying hard) plus he still ha 2 months of school left in that class. Or maybe I should just completely avoid mentioning the incidents (unless they come up) and concentrate on next year? I just feel that if I did mention them, this whole thing would be taken more seriously.

I did previously mention to the special ed director that we are considering homeschooling because of all these issues and she really wants DS in school (citing the usual socializing concerns) so it's only up to them to man up and provide a TRUE safe environment!