and p.s. my DD was diagnosed by a behavioral optometrist as having convergence insufficiency. The pediatric opthalmologist absolutely disagreed, said it is the way her brain is wired (actually upon doing some research this opinion is more closely associated with things I've read by the Eides). So we're between a rock and a hard place there...that's another thread.

If our DS and DD sound similar, I would really try emphasizing strengths like crazy and engage him in his own learning about his profile and things that might work for him. My DD started the whole color-coding thing before I even read about it in one of Thomas Armstrong books. It gave me goosebumps - maybe my kid knows more what's best for her than all the adult "experts"!!