When I dealing with my son by telling him you must obey your parents. I tell him his parents know what is best for him and he should do as he is told. I'm sorry if this is confusing but that's why you have parents to help. It is respectful to do what I tell him to do. You will fell better if you do the right thing. I think he lacks in self control at times and get frustrated with my control. I want to get him to want to do the right thing more becuase it is right not because he will lose a privelage. Hope someone cand help.