Lorel, I read in one the many gifted books I've picked up...maybe "Re-forming Gifted Education" that the Father really needs to be at the forefront and doing the talking. Unfortunately, my DH works long hours at the lab ... and when out of his element, is quite shy ... I just don't see him going in there being a strong, assertive type. He would just say "What she said..." pointing at me lol.