I love Aeh's post.

Conforming is a passive position and choosing to manage a situation is an active one. Finding a strategy to manage with this teacher is a more active way to view the problem that might leave you feeling more empowered, even if the reality remains. If you and your son discuss ways of managing that involve respecting the position, if not the person, he might rise to the challenge of simply getting through the day without drama. The next step is to get through the day without drama and having my learning needs met to a degree. He is still "manipulating" the situation but in a more positive way.

Did I read on one of the threads that this teacher has a child with ADHD? Sorry, there are a few threads going. If so, do you think she is projecting her anxiety about her own child onto yours?