Definitely not alone Cola. Been thinking this myself lately.
It is hard to conform when the standards you are been asked to meet don't reach your minimum expectations......like having a school that will respect and help your child to the best of their abilities. You have been having a tough time in that regard which I am sure is wearing you down.
I have been wondering if the stigma on giftedness has somehow increased lately. It could be that we see so much of the struggle here compared to the triumph, but it does seem that it has been tough for a lot of people lately.
Maybe its tougher for the schools too. Putting on my compassion hat, maybe they are struggling with the changes to education and so being asked to do anything outside the box just feels even harder. Maybe in their struggle to conform themselves they are angry and frustrated with every deviance from expectation.
Still, its no excuse for the hurt they put some families through.