I think there needs to be a balance that is learned. It certainly is a reality of working life that often you need to conform and just do what your boss says.

Even in more casual relationships and friendships, it things can be much more pleasant if you don't debate all the time and so on.

Of course, I don't believe that children's ideas are less than adults just because of their age, either. I don't mind questioning of the rules. However, I do not have time to explain the reasoning behind each rule (or whatever) in the moment. So sometimes the questions and debate have to wait, but the child still needs to do as they are told.

So I think I both agree and disagree with the OP. I have seen many teachers who are more open to debate and questions now that when I was a kid. So I think we are already moving in that direction.